Abusive Personality

A set of features that can uniquely identify one person from another is defined as personality. One’s personality is usually determined by experiences and knowledge that helps to deal with the matters that arise as life goes on. Therefore, developing one’s personality is a must to succeed in life. However, an abusive personality is a particular kind of personality that is harmful to others as well oneself.

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As any other personality would display signs and characteristics of their type, an abusive personality reveals characteristics that are generally considered as warning signs. Although the display of these signs does not necessarily imply that one has an abusive personality, a greater number of warning signs suggest a greater inclination towards abusiveness. The specific traits that are displayed include, excessive jealousy, possessive and dominating behavior. Initially, the person may even try to conceal his/her dominating behavior as concern or love towards the other person and the victim may be grateful at first. However, as time passes by, this conduct would become more severe and he/she will tend to control the other party by influencing and threatening them. A person with an abusive personality would also try to seclude the other party from any social interactions by suppressing them to associate with friends or relatives.

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Another distinctive characteristic of a person with an abusive personality is holding impractical expectations. The person may expect others to be perfect and, then may even blame them for not standing up to his/her expectations. Furthermore, the person will always deny responsibility for any violent or negative acts caused by him/her. Usually, the person would blame the other party for the committed acts of violence stating that they prompted him/her to act in that manner.

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An abusive personality would also compel the person to be hypersensitive and therefore, they are easily offended or upset.  The slightest incident in any event can cause an outbreak and loss of temper. Sudden mood swings would also occur in a person with an abusive personality causing them to be loving one moment and hostile the next. It is not strange for persons with an absuive personality to also verbally abuse their victims by frequently humiliating them.

There are conseling and guidance services that can help those with an abusive personality and assist them in overcoming it. It should be remembered that it is not a disgrace to look for help if you or someone you know has an abusive personality. No one wants to be a victim of an abuser and no one should be abusively treated.