Can I Get My Wife Back, If So, How?

Can I get my wife back and if so, how?  This is a question that has probably been asked millions of times throughout history. There is no answer that will work for everyone but in most cases the answer is… probably.  Of course, whether or not you and your ex can reconcile will depend on many factors such as whether or not she still cares for you and what went wrong in the relationship in the first place.

It’s so easy for us to find the faults of our partners.  We all do it, no doubt your ex did it to you too. The hard thing for us to do is to squarely face up to our own faults. That is the part we all seem to struggle with.  Unfortunately, if you want your ex back, this is exactly what you will need to do.  For now don’t worry about your ex and the things that she needs to change, that is for her to discover on her own.  You need to concentrate on the only person you can actually change… you.

Figure out what you need to do to be a better husband to your wife and then make those changes.  It will most likely take time but once you’ve made serious strides forward when it comes to becoming a better man, the next step will be to let your wife get to know the ‘new’ you.

You will have to take things slowly with her, if she wants to try at all.  If you treated her poorly in the past she will have a hard time letting you in again because she will be risking getting hurt again. You will need to be patient and try to understand her fear.

If you get impatient or try to rush her you will not only show her that you really haven’t changed but you will most likely scare her away forever.  It doesn’t matter what the issues were in your relationship, if you  realize that you are mostly responsible for the problems in the marriage, it will be up to you to do the majority of the work to make her trust you again.  It’s kind of like what would happen if someone cheats in a relationship: the trust is broken and it will need to be rebuilt and that will take time.

In most cases once one partner has made a real effort to improve them self and be a better partner in the relationship, the other partner will step up too and make their own changes. Of course, that doesn’t always happen and if your partner isn’t willing to address their own issues and make changes you might have to deal with the fact that you simply won’t be able to save your relationship.

If you are wiling to put in the love, time and patience with the full understanding that it still may not work out and you still may not be able to answer the question “can I get my wife back?” with a yes, than you will have at least a fighting chance of reconciling with your ex.