Getting Your Exgirlfriend Back The Smart Way

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They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  If your girlfriend is now your ex, you probably understand the truth of that statement.  If you could only get a second chance, you’d show her how much you love her.  You can learn more about making up with your ex boyfriend here.

How then can you get a second chance with your ex girlfriend?  The answer is that you have to know the main reason why you broke up.  That will determine how you try to get her back.

The first reason for breaking up is that you wronged your ex.  You either cheated on her or you were too controlling or too jealous or too demanding and she dumped you.  At some point it got to be too much and she told you to take a hike.

A second big reason relationships end is because of relationship drift.  She just isn’t that into you anymore.  Maybe she got bored or started to feel unappreciated and unloved.  She lost interest in you as a lover over time.

So if you understand why she left you, then you’ll know which approach to use to get her back.  Let’s say you cheated on your ex girlfriend.  You wronged her.  Then the approach to use is to make a Smart Apology.  This is a particular kind of apology that is emotionally powerful and can begin to repair the damage you caused by wronging her.  You can learn more about resolving relationship conflict specifics here.

A smart apology has several steps to it.  But the thing is you don’t even say you’re sorry til the third or fourth step.  First, you fess up to what you did.  You don’t try to avoid blame, you take responsibility.  Then you let her vent, and get things off her chest.  You just listen and don’t try to argue.

If you can do those two things before you apologize, you are halfway home to restoring her trust and making her feel heard and understood.  Too many guys just keep saying they are sorry til they are blue in the face and it makes no difference.   A Smart Apology will impact your ex girlfriend emotionally.

What if she left because she isn’t into you anymore?  Relationship drift?  Then you need to follow a different approach, as an apology isn’t the answer.  You can find out more about this in a free course here.  Getting your ex back involves a lot of relationship intelligence, but this is a good way to start the process.  Get your free course on getting back together here.