How to Overcome Jealousy – Slay the Green Eyed Monster

Jealousy is an ugly vice. It serves no useful purpose and can destroy an otherwise good relationship. If for some reason you lean in that direction you need to learn how to overcome jealousy before your relationship falls victim to the green eyed monster.

I’ve been looking into this problem quite a bit and I found good advice on web-pages like How to Overcome Jealousy. Here’s some of what I’ve learned.

To begin, why do you think your jealous? What are your excuses? This will require honest self-examination.

No one has to be jealous. Jealousy is a choice. Being jealous is like other ways of being in the world – It’s under our control. It may be more comfortable to blame external circumstances for the way you are, but that’s but that’s not accurate. You are in control. An adult accepts responsibility for their response to life circumstances.

There many reasons a person may choose to experience jealousy. For many people, it’s a sense of unworthiness.

Some people say that because they’ve been cheated on in the past means they have to be jealous now. Responding to that fear with jealousy is like to have the opposite of the desired effect. it will threaten relationship rather than protect.

Some people use jealous demands as a way to control their partner. It’s a power trip. it’s not hard to imagine how this could eventually threaten the relationship.

To go back to a recurring theme, we do have a choice. If we make different choices, we’ll get different outcomes. Approaching a partner with love and respect is much more likely to get a positive result.

Would you rather have someone who wanted to come home rather than someone who came home because of some sense of obligation? Someone who responds to their partner’s jealous demands eventually comes to resent. Again, jealousy is a negative emotion and its results will be negative.

Since intimate relationships are very complex and emotionally charged, it’s not surprising we have difficulty with them. Part of the problem is that none of us are taught specifically how to deal with relationships as we grow up. Were left to our own devices and it shows.

With the information resources available today it doesn’t have to be that way.

An excellent site devoted to all aspects of relationships is The Relationship Fix.

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