learn To Cope With The Loss Of Your Boyfriend

Are you trying to cope with the death of your boyfriend or do you know someone who is? Well this is not a situation you can easily overcome. You need to be able to have some strength and hear some encouragement words from your friends and loved ones.

Most people do not realise the phases that a grieving person goes through. Allow me to go through a few of these – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.

Disbelief

The initial feeling that comes when you hear the sad news is that of disbelief. This is made worse by the fact that you may have just seen your boyfriend or just talked to him over the phone. This feeling may take a while to subside. In most cases it lasts until the funeral.

Shock

Seeing or hearing news about the death can be quite shocking. In most cases this happens at the funeral after reality strikes. This is when you start to take in as reality gives you no choice but face what has happened. In most instances this feeling does not last long.

Anger

This feeling can be directed at any one and everyone including yourself and the people who were meant to “protect” your boyfriend. Anger is destructive especially if not properly managed. You need to watch what you say and think during the time. Buy some books about daily words of encouragement to get you through the day when you feel like venting.

Pain

Now this is the feeling that lasts. It required you to constantly hear some words of encouragement. Pain is really a nasty feeling. It feels like a thorn that mercilessly prickles the heart beyond what human nature can bare. No matter how it feels, it goes away eventually. Memories never go away, yes but the heart ache stops at some point.

Another feeling that is attached to pain is helplessness and also regret. No matter what you go through, no matter the years you spend grieving, the pain due to the loss of your boyfriend does go away eventually.