Marital Affairs Have Devastating Effects

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    Marital affairs happen to those who are unaware of the neglect they have shown to their mate. In many relationships, people have trouble expressing themselves in certain areas, so they resort to sending little signals, hoping for understanding from their partner. But many partners aren’t watching for these signals and miss them altogether, and it has devastating results.   

    A whole gambit of emotions are experienced when marital affairs are found out. Jealousy, shock, disbelief, betrayal, despair, and humiliation are just a few. The sacred trust that was bonded with the sexual act has been compromised, and very few are able to ever fully get it back. It’s a short road down, but a long painful climb to get back up.   

    Marriage is a sacred trust. No-one should have to worry about their spouse ever having an extra-marital affair. There’s no freedom in that way of life, only bondage and mental anguish. And when searching for answers as to why, they can be many fold, and some not even thought of.   

    Drinking has always been an instigator of marital affairs. But do they drink in order to have the affair, to dull their emotions until they can commit the act, or is it an underlying problem they brought with them that stems from their childhood?   

    The questions begin to arise, about what could have been done differently to avoid this. Is there some attention in a certain area that they needed that I missed, or are they simply bored and tired of this marriage? It’ really difficult to nail down the exact reason for the violation.   

    It’s a de-valuation of your spouse and their input into the relationship. It makes them feel inadequate, in spite of all the things they put into it. That’s another part of what makes extra marital affairs such a destructive force and makes the divorce rate rise.   

    The intimacy has been lost between them. It can never be the same again. Only time can seemingly overcome it, but even then it remains a permanent stain between the couple. Many do survive it, some for love, others for the kids, and some even for their careers. But it’s never quite the same afterwards.   

    By becoming un-attentive to your spouse’s subtle cries for help in certain areas, you open the door for someone who sees this need to fill it, and create a temptation for your spouse that shouldn’t be there. That’s why being able to openly and honestly discuss your feelings is crucial. It lets you know how things are.   

    By being able to talk open and honestly about feelings and needs, you can defeat problems before they arise. You know what your partner is thinking and needing, and if you love them, you’re glad to do whatever it is they need you to do. It’s a two-way street, and each has their part to play.   

    But resorting to a marital affair is the worst way to get your needs met. But it usually happens after one stops listening to the other, and ignores the problem thinking they should deal with it, or it will simply go away. Time festers wounds until they hurt so bad people turn to wherever they can to make it feel better. Don’t ignore your partner. Be a good listener, and a talker as well.