The Key to Winning Your Ex Back is to Break the Pattern

When you talk to your friends about fixing your relationship, do they say that you need to change your hair, your makeup, your clothing style, something, anything if you want to get back your man? That probably sounds crazy to you. After all, you haven’t gotten fat, and you take good care of yourself. You’re still very much the woman he fell for not so long ago. Surely they’re wrong.

Actually, the people telling you to change are right on. Making these kinds of changes, superficial though they are can make it easier to win your ex back, even though you are still very much the woman he fell for. Let me explain.

Subconscious at Work

The reason what they say makes sense has to do with the way our subconscious minds work. Our subconscious minds draw links between what we sense in the world around us and the emotions we are experiencing at the time same time. In other words, our brains automatically associate positive emotions with what we see, smell, touch, and while we are feeling those positive emotions.

Think about it. Surely you’ve experienced a situation where something in your environment triggers happy feelings, or negative emotions. If you think hard about it, you can probably name the event or situation where, say, the smell of fresh baked bread became associated with some happy event.

Your ex’s subconscious mind does that too. Can you see why this would be a problem? Your man probably now has a lot of bad associations with your appearance. And it has nothing to do with liking or disliking any of these things themselves. It’s because of your breakup.

Breaking up is hugely stressful and involves lots of negative emotions. And who was he around when those emotions were highest? Who did he have his attention on during this high-stress time? You.

Because of that and the way our minds work, he surely has all sorts of negative emotions associated with the way you look, smell, feel, dress. Everything he perceived about you when you two split up probably has unconscious negative associations for him. If you want to increase the chances that you will get back your man, you need to break this pattern.

How to Break out of the Pattern

You need to break the pattern to eliminate those negative subconscious attitudes toward you. And the last thing you need when you are trying to put your relationship back together is for him to have unconscious negative feelings toward you pop up whenever he sees you.

To break the pattern, you need to change things about yourself. Now I’m not saying you need to become someone else. You still need to be yourself or you’ll just make matters worse. Surely though there are changes you can make that don’t change who you are. Here are a few examples:

• Change your hair style to one he has never seen before
• Use a new perfume
• Wear a different clothing style
• Switch from glasses to contacts or vice versa
• Develop more self-confidence

You get the idea. You can make these change without fundamentally changing who you are. At the same time, you will break up the negative patterns. After all, he can’t have negative associations about you in a dress if you’ve never worn one before. Doing things like this not only breaks up the old pattern, it starts establishing new, more positive ones.

Subconscious emotional patterns are not the only things that can help or hinder you in your quest for winning your ex back.

This bring back the love site is full of tips and advice that will help you get back your man. If you want the best possible chance to get your ex back, you’ll want to follow the complete and time-tested relationship repair plan laid out in this “get back your man“ guide.