When to Seek Marriage Counseling

In a perfect world, after a couple says “I do” they live happily ever after. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world. And most times, following the wedding day, that is when trouble begins.

Whatever the cause, the couple’s happy and blissful relationship all of a sudden turns cold and bitter.

In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.

Arguments, disagreements, and fights do happen.  It is bound to happen in most marriages.But there is a time when the couple needs to look at whether or not this is normal or part of everyday life.  Or if is too much and time to seek help.

Because a problem in a marriage, left unchecked, could one day lead to a horrible divorce.

So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling San Diego is needed.

The first sign is bickering, do you guys bicker a lot?  Do little things cause you guys to argue? Although small and subtle this could be the beginning of something bigger.

Second, does it seem hard to say anything nice about each other? This shows you that you two are holding contempt for each other and that is not beneficial.

A third thing is do you find that your level of respect for each other is not there?In every relationship, the couple must respect each other.

Fourth sign, is there a loss of intimacy with each other?  This is not just for sex, although this is part of it.Does is seem like the two of you aren’t as close as you once were?

Fifth, when your spouse is not around are you happier?  This is  not a good sign and is the beginning of the separation.

Sixth thing to examine is there a loss of trust between the two of you? On of the things for the married couple that is most important is trust.When your most intimate moments are going to be lived and shared with, there has to be trust.

Finally, has there been unfaithfulness between one of you?To most it seems simple enough and obvious.Unfortunately, some of the times when this happens, some couples ignore it rather than try to face it.

Of course there are plenty of other signs.  But these are some big ones when deciding if it is time to seek a marriage counselor in San Diego. 

If you find yourself experiencing these situations, and saving your marriage is what you want.You have get some professional advice that will help you find ways to help solve these problems.

Often times, a third viewpoint can help immensely and that is where a family counselor can help.